When I was five years old I wanted to visit Sweden, because I was made there, you know the mom & dad thing happened while my parents and my sister were visiting my uncle. He had left Yugoslavia as a twenty year old and has always said Sweden is the best country in the world. As a five year old I felt left out of that visit to Sweden. My father had before that been there two times. Life twists weird and during the aggression on Bosnia and Herzegovina I left with my mom and sister to Sweden, for a short stay we thought never guessing the war could go on like it did and our home taken over by other people.
Sweden is my father, the land in which I became who I am. Bosnia is my mother, it’s what I am and always will be.
I learned Swedish quickly and our lives went on as normal as we could make it. My mom worked for free just to get into the Swedish milieu of the job she had in Yugoslavia (she a nurse and my father a civil engineer) – while both she and my father also learned the language, enough to get into work. Anyway, we worked hard and our lives got well in the end. We all became Swedes and I was always grateful to what chance I got. Sweden is my father, the land in which I became who I am. Bosnia is my mother, it’s what I am and always will be.
This was just a very short introduction to give a background of myself in this Swedish context. Today, I’m in Bosnia with my wife and baby. She’s seeing how this country is, what’s worse, what’s better and many other nuances that differ. That’s a good thing. I’ve been traveling a lot and living for months in countries like Germany, Spain, India and most of all Norway. Norway is another love of mine but I’m digressing and more about that some other time.
Winter is coming and we’re going back to Sweden after a couple of months in my motherland. Sweden is a country that is now very different from the one I came to in the 1990’s. Today, you’re much safer in Bosnia than in Sweden. The migrant swarms of non-refugees and young men from totally different, and less respectful/tolerant, cultures than the Swedish have filled the main cities – and the small towns. Safety is nowhere. Girls get raped, people killed in IKEA, gun- and grenade wars in the ghettos and the economical disaster is nothing compared to how this will evolve in the next five years.
When my wife was pregnant and we were visiting Lund on a warm sunny spring day something happened, in the parking garage in the center of town. Three of these young migrant men threatened us and we drove away escaping the situation. These men have nothing to lose, they get economical benefits – compared to us average and simple living people who have to work hard for anything. They have risen up to a new country where no sanctions or punishments can be made against them. If they’d injured me or my wife, not to mention the unborn baby back then – we’d lose everything and they nothing. They would have gotten some time in jail with all service included and gotten out again to cash in those benefits – and sympathy from the politicians and voters who haven’t seen the reality of the situation. Too many in politics and within the social service believe that monsters can be tamed to live a normal life.
Therefore, it is with a sort of sadness and concern that I return to Sweden after these travels. This year alone, over 200 000 migrants have arrived. Sweden has no-go zones for the police and ambulances. Women are no longer safe and nights are no longer of the sweetness (and safety) of my youth – but a cringed reality of protecting yourself. From who? Who’s fault is this?
It’s the politicians and thus the people of Sweden themselves who’ve done this. The good willing hybris that Sweden can have the highest taxes and save the whole world without any order, limit and sanity. But now it’s out in the open and nobody is denying this, the solutions lies ahead and Sweden is an example of something bad these days around in Europe. The big government and political correct leadership has drowned – what will happen in the near future I’m not sure of. But I do find that the root of all this Swedish mentality and how it has driven a once great nation into a potential third world country; has something to do with the individual liberation aspiration from the 1950’s and 1960’s, which never ended and evolved into political ideas and indoctrination that has for too long behaved like Ouroboros and began to eat itself up.
It’s not this current system that made the great Sweden which it is now sinking.
Being parents my wife and I talk about how we will deal with all this. To stir it up further, Sweden has incredibly imbecile gender-bender programs and agendas, like censoring innocent books, banning all winning/losing which in the end results in humans who can’t respect one another – in their success, failures and generally life in all its glory and variations. This confusing and hysterical policies are ruining young children and Swedish schools are already in heavy decline. There is not much left to ones own responsibility, as the state pushed all this with subsidized money. Who wants to be part of that system really? It’s not this current system that made the great Sweden which it is now sinking.
BartekJanuary 7, 2016
Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. I have been to Sweden many times during my childhood and teens. It was summer jobs like berry picking in the woods. Back then in nineties one could earn good money that way and make their life a little bit easier in Poland (I am Polish). I had always enjoyed the part of Swedish culture I came in contact with. Big Swedish cities like Malmoe or Stockholm I have visited only briefly about 2005-2007 and I had to spend a night each time(during weekend in addition) walking around the railway stations and city centre. Many drunk people but it wasn’t as bad as it is now.
2007-2010 I spent living and working in Norway. Situation there was not as bad as in Sweden according to news on tv, papers, people talking at work. But situation has changed dramatically. It is really sad. I am afraid that our (as a European society) failure to stop it in time will lead to a bloody war in the future… :(
On the other hand some reactions, racism (the real one, not the “racism” as an etiquette used by those of immigrants who don’t like to be criticised and shout loudly “racism, racism!” whenever you try to discuss with them) hatred are not what should replace the stupic, cynical politicians who do it to Europe in the name … I do not know what. I suspect they just want to earn some more money and are afraid to admit their errors which, as they probably think, would end their political careers.
But, happily, not everything is so bad after all. You’ve got your family and I think this is something that really matters in life. And you really beautiful play guitar man! :)
Cheers from Polish city Wrocław, which itself has had a dificult and complicated history (went from hands to hands throughout the history. Polish, Czech, German, Communism etc)
Sanjin ĐumišićJanuary 7, 2016
Hello Bartek & Thank you for the shared experience!
I can understand the complicated history of Poland somewhat, as I am from the dynamic Balkans. Personally I believe it’s time to make the best of the EU project, as the original idea was good – to bring all the countries closer and make life better for Europeans. I think EU is focusing much on the wrong things that were not meant to be the goal from the start. When I take Sweden as an example, the amount of money that is now being wasted will definitively injure the stability it once had. There are already more and more people becoming poor in Sweden. All these men that come and who have such a drastically different cultural essence will never assimilate – and they will make it hard for migrants and refugees that do. I agree that something needs to cool down and stop a bit before things escalate.
Personally I’m not worried, but feel the need to mention this and be part of something that involves reacting to this mess. What I have got in my life I want the future generations in Europe to have, especially in Sweden. But Sweden must be what it has been, because it was that which made it so great. If the demographics change too much and things deteriorate beyond a limit, escalation and separation will become a reality. By the way, I just posted a short video about this topic sort of, ‘Let’s make our daughters, sisters and mothers safe again’ https://youtu.be/2yWoLOXCsVg
I also worked in Norway, for me it was 2009 – 2010. It is such a beautiful country and the nature is like a fairy tale. Each year I head out on a road trip to Norway, sleeping in the car, but will upgrade to a tent now that one has a family =) Anyway, parts of Oslo were not at all like Norway. I don’t know how it is now from my own experience, but hearing about it, it seems bad. Better than in Sweden though.
/All the best